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What do you think of large funerals and gatherings to receive condolences?

Tell me your opinion and why you think so.

Public Comments

1. nothing much..i just wish i won't be the one who is standing out there receiving condolences..
2. Funerals and the gatherings before and after the funerals themselves are for the living! People need an opportunity to grieve and to begin the network that will ensure that the memory of the life of the person who died continues. Your question includes the idea of "large", but you don't explain why you're asking, and what you mean by large. When my father and years later, my mother died, hundreds of people came to the reception before the funeral, and some of those people, and others, came to the funeral. But only the family and a few close friends came to the cemetery, but that was over 50 people. Both of them had been very active in our small town. I still remember an elementary school classmate of mine that I had not seen for over 30 years who came to the reception (wake) for my father. She said, Ï came because I always admired your dad and this is my way to show everyone how much I respected him. If people believe in life after death, then funerals are surprisingly pleasant experiences for the most part, and an opportunity for families and friends who don't live near each other to get together and renew their links to each other.
3. i think they are really stupid,it's just the silliest thing ever... the funeral ends with the guy being buried,after that you only have to have some chairs for some guys to give you their condolences. after the guy's dead,what is the use of making a massive funeral,which became a competition now,who's make the bigger and the newest one,then installing the loudest sound systems,which not allow ppl to study properly,or sleep or anything,this is just not Islamic from anyway...and there's catering,dressed in uniform,pouring coffee for ppl...what the hell?? aren't the kids or the wife of that dead guy need the money more that spilling it on useless stuff,that won't do the dead guy any good? what benefit will be resulted from this,except bragging around with the largest funeral in the city? is that what really matters now?
4. Well some do it as a show (which is sad enough in it own way) and some other time it is a large gathering that shows how much this person was loved and his/her life touched so many others. In both cases it is a very sad and heartbreaking occasion for the close family and friends.
5. I don't think they are needed, receiving condolences does not need a large funeral, this would make it even harder, receiving condolences can simply take place home or over phone, besides, this will not be of any benefit to the dead person or anyone else, so what's the point of it altogether?
6. Large or small its up to the grieving or funeral director to accommodate the needs at hand.There is much more than just the obvious.Its a beginning for healing. In recent years,I have lost my Mother,brother,grandparents many friends,clientele my experience is now shall we say more enlightened.I agree it is for the living that we have the funerals. However it is what you emotionally can take away. I had a intuitive feeling my Mother was going to die.I had been separated from her in distance.Over the years I missed so very much.I had became self absorbed in my own life.I was not aware of my Mothers vast kindnesses,friends.I was not a very sociable in my life it has changed me. Her funeral opened my mind,showered my heart,with a newness of faith in mankind.We all will put up with some arrogance,or ignorance from the living.Unseemly characters want to be invited,or want to gawk at the grieving family,people act out,say inappropriate things.This is a given. Some do not know how or do not want to grieve publicly. If it is well planned,if family and your circumstances allow it you can grow,mature into a person who knows how to respond to the living who are hurting.Emotionally giving grace to mankind.
7. large funerals are nice because if the person who died is your loved one you realize like how many ppl they knew or touched and how much support that you or your family has. i don't recomend open caksetts cuz that was a little freaky if ur queazy.
8. well you know there will be alot of food if they are mexican
9. well its kind of a gathering for people to see the person that they talked to and just have a last look at them and try to remember what they have done
10. If people believe in life after death, then funerals are surprisingly pleasant experiences for the most part, and an opportunity for families and friends who don't live near each other to get together and renew their links to each other.
11. i think its a way of coping and dealing with the lost, and i dont think you understand the gathering if you've never experienced the lost of an immediate family member, your surrounded by people that loved the person and that support is so needed.