Rest In Peace

If a couple get divorced, when their parents die, is it appropriate for the divorcees to attend the funeral?

For example, the ex-wife's mother dies, should the ex-husband (the ex-son in law) attend? And should the funeral notice mention the ex-son- in-law, given that there were children from the marriage?

Public Comments

1. It shouldn't mention the ex son in law. The children yes, but not the ex's. As far as attending the funeral it all depends on how close they were during the marriage, how long the marriage was, and how badly the marriage ended. My mom didn't attend my grandpa's funeral (my dad's dad), and my dad didn't attend my grandma's funeral (my mom's mom). My mom did attend my father's funeral though.
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3. I would think that it might be best to leave the ex-son-in-law out of the funeral notice. But I think he should attend the funeral, if he is on good enough term with his ex that he won't cause a problem. He should be there to help his children through the loss of their grandparent, and if he and the mother are still friends, to help his ex-wife/friend through her grief. If, however, his presence is only going to be more strain on the ex-wife at this difficult time, it would be better not to go. He should probably ask her if she would rather he came or not. Also, if the ex was on good terms with the deceased, he would have the right to come for her sake. My uncle's ex came to my grandfather's funeral not long ago and we were all touched that she cared enough to come.
4. This all depends on a lot of things...The closeness before the marriage ended...the bad feelings still held etc. The funeral notice I would say the ex should not be mentioned...the children yes. Usually if the ex and the deceased were still close often the ex sends flowers for the funeral
5. Of course .... yes an ex can attend the funeral if a member of their ex-family dies. No, the ex will not be mentioned in the funeral notice, but their children will be. I attended my ex brother in law's funeral eight years ago. It felt awkward, but I attended with my children. Even though you are an ex family member, you can still show your respects.