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Funerals??

I went to a funeral last night. The deceased was spiritual for sure, but not terribly religious, but the service was all about God and barely even mentioned the deceased. Of course, the main function of a funeral is to give the family solace, and I hope it did that, but I felt kind of gyped. I wanted to remember her, celebrate her life and who she was. So what do you want for your funeral? Or what do you not want for your funeral? Just wondering... mr. danger - they have green funerals now. You probably can get precisely what you want. :-) And I take your swat about "gypped." I know. sorry.

Public Comments

1. Most funerals are like that. However, memorial services tend to focus more on the individual. It is one of the main reasons why I wrote my own memorial & funeral services because I don't want people to feel like religion is being crammed down their throats. I used mostly poems that mean something to me in them instead of religious propaganda.
2. ~I know my family will be sad, they will cry and miss me. But they will know in their hearts that I am in a wondrous place with the One that died for me many years ago...Jesus Christ. So I hope that will give them some comfort. I do not want to be buried (waste of land and money). Cremate me and they can either keep the ashes or spread them somewhere they know I love.
3. I want a cremation with no funeral service .
4. I want my family and friends to party..hard. I personally would like to be present in the form of huge pictures (cremate my body) spread throughout the venue. I'd like there to be good food, a decent bar, an infectious vibe, and of course a killer dj. I am sure this sounds peculiar to you, but those who know me know that party planning is my thing so it is fitting that my last hooray would be a party. I do not want anyone to be sad that I am gone at least for one night. I want to be remembered where I was happiest on the dancefloor somewhere with my girls having the time of my life.
5. When my girlfriend's dad passed, we held the funeral outside next to a lake. We arranged this through a company that helps set up alternative funerals. At one point, a guy on jet skis was playing not far from us, making it hard to hear things. I mentioned my annoyance to my girlfriend afterwards and she said her dad loved waterskiing and the interruption was in perfect character. She thought of his spirit out on the lake playing and saying wooHOO. When I die, I'd like my family/friends to meet in a planetarium. I think that would help them connect with my spirit to say goodbye and move on. A shamanic practitioner would lead the ceremony, using whatever rites she and her guides feel appropriate.
6. I don't recall ever reading the word "Gypped" used to describe ones experience at a funeral service,The root of the word is "gypsy " so in a sense it's a derogatory term. I probably can't get what I want for my funeral so I'll try to get what I need. Although I'm not Jewish ,I want an Orthodox Jewish funeral No embalming No viewing Into the ground by sunset 100% decomposable casket -all wood no metal
7. First, I want to be an old, old lady when I go. I'd like to be cremated. I want mood lighting. I want candles. I want music, not crappy organ music, but good, uplifting music. I have a playlist kinda picked out. Tori Amos's Happy Phantom tops the list. I want snacks. I want some pretty flowers, lots of laughter through tears. I want fantastic photo's of me, everywhere! I want one of my friends to speak briefly on the cycle of life, death and re-birth. I want everyone to stick around and help out my daughter and husband after. I'd like a memorial camp out at our house where everybody sips some hooch, eats some comfort food and maybe get smoked out. I want them to forget to be sad because they had so much fun being together. I want someone to read the Desiderata and maybe the Rainbow Bridge, or the kid's book Old Turtle. I do NOT want to be preached into heaven. I want no preachers at all.
8. I would like to have my life celebrated. I want my children and my family to remember my life not morn it. And I want to be cremated. I do not want to burden my family with a huge funeral bill. My mother always said she wanted a New Orleans funeral. Those people really no how to celebrate!
9. I want to donate my body to a medical institute, where my good organs, suitable for transplantation be preserved, anatomy be studied by medicos, then the remains be wrapped in a plain cotton cloth and buried, no cremation.
10. Funerals? None for me thanks. The deceased was spiritual? Law is spiritual, but also deadly. Grace is spiritual, but can't lie nor die. Comparing spiritual(law) with spiritual(grace)? The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
11. I want to be buried in 2 or 3 days max. I don't want my family to be crying over my body more than 3 days. I want to be buried, not cremated. I don't want flowers, I don't want candles. I want music, probably Beatles, my friends know why. I don't want priests or pastors preaching, but I would like someone there just praying for me and for my family. I don't mind having some passage of the Bible read, because my husband is Christian, but I would like some sort of reincarnation message, too, because that's what I believe. Something like "Janet is gone because her mission was completed, but she will be prepared to come back among you all again". I want food, I want people laughing, I want my house full of people, my children and grandchildren, kids running wild. I want to die in the summer, because I was born in the summer, and I love summer and I love the sun. I want socks on my feet, but I don't care about the rest of the clothing. Oh, and I want to die at age 98 or 99. That's it. Peace!